Is Being An Extreme Cheapskate Resourceful Or Abusive?

If you have ever watched an episode of extreme cheapskates on TLC then you have seen just how far people will push to save a dime. When you see some of the techniques they will use, you at first think, wow that is a good way to make a dollar go far. However, it does not take long to see that some of their actions are highly questionable.

One example was a family on the show that saved money on the water bill by having one bath of fresh water then rotate instead of changing the water. My first thought was what in the world. Any natural reaction would know that reusing dirty water to save water is disguising especially knowing the children are forced to live this lifestyle. Then I began to wonder if what they were doing qualified as child abuse.  If children are in extreme unsanitary condition they can get taken away. None of these children even get to sleep in separate rooms as they later mention that they all share one room to save on heat. Their is nothing wrong with living on a budget, but at what point are these habits a form of abuse. The more you watch the show you begin to notice that there are three different type of cheapskates on the show.

One form of cheapskate is the “just on the edge of stealing” cheapskate. This is were the person does something to save money that is within the limits of legal but to anyone with common sense it is cheating someone else of their money. One example was the man who went to an ice cream parlor and took 4-6 cups of samples then did not buy anything. This is not a way of being cheap this is just another form of stealing that just is not worth the other person time to sue over. This man not only took up this man’s time to serve other but stole ice cream with no sign of remorse. These people have a business to run and if everyone did what he does these people would go out of business leaving them in debt and without jobs.  The actions of these types of cheapskates is not ok and should be shamed because this is not living on a budget this is taking want you want because you feel you have the right to it.

Another form of cheapskate is the “addict” the more common one. The actions of a addict cheapskate can be a mix of all three forms. One lady on the show proclaim that she was a 3rd generation extreme cheapskate, this has been the only way she knows how to live. She does not see a need to pay for anything that see owns. She was willing to go as far as taking medication from out of a dumpsters while pregnant. No matter how much research you do on the meds, there is no guarantee way to determine whether those pills are what you expected them to be or they may be expired since they were put in the trash. She can not stop herself from this type of lifestyle because she has never lived any different and the people that are around her do not expect her to change but rather adjust to her way of life. This woman did have a partner who did not grow up in this lifestyle but eventually became addicted as she was even to the point where he quotes her feelings about dumpster diving.

Lastly the resourceful, now this is the ones I enjoy to watch the most. The way the go about their cheap habits will actually make sense to many. There was a mother that showed how she made her own baby wipes and used old t-shirts for diapers.  This is a smart and probably safe way to take care of your child with issues popping up everyday when is comes to baby products. There are so many creative ways you could save money and enjoy life.

In a world where the amount we waste is destroying the eco-system, making your home daily house products will help teach you handy skill sets and be better for the world. Yet, one thing you would assume all of the people on this show would be doing but don’t is garden. Even though some of these people are cheap as dirty many will not grow there own food which is extreme odd knowing that they will do anything they can to cheat out a business in whatever they can get. Overall, many on this show are not about saving a dime but that they feel like they should have the right to get what they want at what price they think it deserves which is selfish and unreasonable behavior.

Is The Devil Working Hard Or Are We Just Selfish?

To be human means that your life will be full of errors and mistakes that you probably don’t remember. Sometimes the problems we cause are small like accidentally knocking over someone’s lunch at work or cutting somebody off in traffic. However, each simply mistake we make in our lives has a ripple effect into someone else’s. That person lunch you knock over could had been their last dime and that person you cut off might not be a good driver and hits the brake too hard causing a car crash. So I wonder is the devil really that busy or do we do most the work ourselves.

Seven Deadly Sins

There has always been the saying that all humans possess the seven deadly sins. Each of us suffering more in certain sins base off our personality. The seven are pride, lust, glutton, greed, sloth, and wrath.

Pride

At first having pride does not seem like it would be a bad thing to have however our pride can destroy us.  When you see someone with too much pride they began to not accept others around them that do not remind them of themselves.  For example Hitler, he took pride in the idea of the Aryan race and treated anyone who did not fit the dream he had with death.  Pride is evil because it teaches you that you should never back down and that you are the right answer not matter how evil your actions are.

Lust

Humans lust after each other because it is human nature to reproduce. However, what is meant to be an act of love turns into pure selfishness. When all you do is lust after everyone in your sight people no longer trust you and the ones that try will only watch as you fail them over and over. Your lust can make people uneasy and if you can not control yourself there is a good chance you will end up with a law suit for sexually harassment. Worst you made cause the birth of several children that you probably have no intentions of taking care of because your lust is still searching for more.

Gluttony

Depending on your situation the action of gluttony will either drive you straight to the hospital or to poverty. This sin can take over you body faster than the others. However you can still be a nice person but all those people that do care about you watch as you eat yourself into an early grave. As food becomes more accessible more people suffer from over eating because it tastes good.

Greed

The need to want everything is common in many. Being greedy in America is so normalized that we made a holiday for it called Black Friday. The most insulting part of this is that the date is right after Thanksgiving which is suppose to be about being thankful for what you have, but Americans threw that right out the window. Though it is not surprising since this does celebrate the genocide of a whole nationality that still to this day suffers from the oppression for helping someone not die. I’m sure many of you have so many clothes that it would take you all day just to count them.

Sloth

The sin of laziness. Most people do not view this sin as badly as the others but it is equally or more destructive than the others. Just think about it if the people in this world began to become so lazy that they would refuse to get out of bed or do any form of work the world would end. There are people in this world that refuse to work and this is dangerous for an economy because no one is making or buying.  Taking no action is an action.

Wrath

We are all too good at wrath. Since humans have existed we had plotted to kill each other starting with Cain & Abel. We take world way too lightly in the ways it takes lives, cultures, land, and other resources that will never be the same.  During the cold war both side knew what it meant to send that missile. Such a violent act could had easily been the beginning of the end of the world. Yet both side pretend that they would push the button.  This would have murder millions and they knew this because of what had happen in Japan. To this day the land touched by nuclear warfare is not longer livable for the human race.  The idea that we still even consider nuclear warfare is enough proof that we will destroy ourselves before the devil even gets a chance.

Is The Devil Working Hard Or Are Humans Dangerous Enough?

I have been pondering this because of how we are made of flesh which is weak.  Our flesh craves in ways that will overtake us while making us feel like this is just a lifestyle choice.  Accepting that you are sick is the first step yet many will think you are the one that is sick for not doing whatever you want. The freedom we have brings us joy but is also the reason we suffer.

The Battle Of The Sickest: I might do (____) but at least I’m not fat?

My Sickness Is Better than Yours

Americans idea of health is so out of wacky that we celebrate peoples sickness. People are perfectly comfortable telling someone who’s overweight to work on their bodies but are silence when someone weight 90 pounds enters the room. What is worst eating to the fullest or starving yourself to death. The answer is neither yet we shame those who have more weight than average and celebrate those who bones are visible from the lack of fat.

The BMI Is A Lie

So you are within the BMI scales for your weight so you must be healthy right? Sadly that is not how that works, all that means is that you are at the right weight for your body but that doesn’t what is in it is any good. If all you feed into your body is deep fried or candy you body is not getting the proper nurturance. Number one example, drinkers.

Drink Until You Drop

Now when everyone is at a party having fun and challenging each other to see who can drink the most you know what you don’t heard, people talking about their health. Just think about it, if someone overweight posted a picture of them celebrating with five burgers in their hands there is an endless line of people prepare to talk about how that is so unhealthy and disguise to do to your body. However, if there is a photo of someone about to have 5 drinks at once posting that they don’t know where they are going to wake up tomorrow everyone tells them to have a good time and go wild. Both actions are terrible decisions, yet most would agree that the over dose of alcohol can be more harmful to themselves and others.  When that person finishes eating all other those burgers they are hurting themselves but that is a long term situation.  After the other person drinks all that alcohol all it would take is for them to get in the car and they could kill themselves and others. Yet, you know which person is judge more harshly about there habits, the one who ate the burgers.

Smoking

Due to research most people are accepting just how dangerous smoking really is. Unlike the 70’s you can not smoke in hospital, public spaces, and inside most institutions. Smoking is harmful to more than just the person lighting the cigar.  Thousand of people have died due to second-hand smoke. Can you image wanted to smoke so badly that you would be willing to risk the lives around you for your own pleasure. Now not all smokers are careless because they do understand that this habit is harming them. That odor gets into the car, house and any other type of property that is used by that person. This is another unhealthy habit that people never judge as harshly as eating too much.

Lust

Sex is apart of life but is also dangerous. Now when I say sex can be dangerous your first thought is to think about diseases. Yes, STDs can destroy your life but there is also an emotion aspect to it. You know who I am referring to the ones who post vague messages of love and say it is for that special lady. Playing with peoples emotions is much more serious than we pretend. There are many people who just want sex for sex this post does not deal with you.  This is for the men and women who know the person their with wants to have a life with them but know they just want sex and will say what they think you want to hear. This causes a world of distrust and the worst case scenario is someone gets pregnant and now there is a child that does not have a home because they weren’t ready for them. Sex is a dangerous game that is doing harm whether people want to accept it.

We All Have Struggles

The next time you feel like you need to talk to someone and shame them about their health you should make sure these groups are at the top of your list.  Everyday people take their fun at over weight people because of their choice of weight and hide behind the idea that they just want them to be health so they don’t look like the bad person.  Either way, the activities listed are serious health choices people make everyday. Maybe you should start remind them that they are taking years away from their lives as well. Everyone has their own battle.

 

5 Actions That The World Needs To See Come From The Church.

The older you get the more you began to question the things that happen in your life. As a Christian you are taught as a child that the world is a beautiful place full of God’s love and Creations and as long as you stay away from that big bad devil you will be blessed for eternity.  However, the older you get the more you see pain and acts of selfishness all around you. Now they tell you that sometimes people are hurting on the inside which makes them do wrong to the people around them and that if you show them love they will get better. But you soon realize that is not really working either and that there are many suffering in the world that had nothing to do with their own actions.  At this point they just tell you it is God’s Plan and that you should not try to understand the plan of a God.  At first this makes sense, how could I just one human in this world truly understand a plan of someone who created it.  Yet, as you grow older and watch people’s choices and how others react you began to wonder if they are doing God’s will as a Christian. The lord knew that setting more rules for every situation was not needed.  The lord gave the commandment to love one another unconditionally and that alone would help Christians follow a way of life that is good. Their is no greater message in Bible, the only job God gave us was to love one another.  Yet, I do not believe that this is what many Christian feel is their duty anymore or just don’t know how? These are 5 ways the church should do to show that we truly mean that we will love one another.

1. Adoption

The church is meant to be a place of worship and fellowship.   There is nothing more depressing than a child without a home.  Children who do not have the option to live with their parents should not live the rest of their lives in government programs. The people that take care of them are not meant to love them and they know this. Growing without feeling like someone loves you and will protect you is not how children are meant to live. The church would be a perfect place to express unconditionally love so that they can do the same when they grow older. ” He defended the cause of the fatherless and the widow, and loves the foreigner residing among you, giving them food and clothing.” Deuteronomy 10:18

2. Service

Something that people seem to forget is that the U.S. is not as rich as it may pretend. There are many in our nation that need food. This could be fixed by the church.  Within a mile radius of my home are about 5 different churches and I live in a small town. If every church is America gave out food there wouldn’t be a soul in our nation going without food. Whether that means t is brought to them like the meal on wheels program or the people come and pick it up. Also people need clothing, Americas throw away clothes everyday just because the brand is no longer popular or because they don’t want to wear the same dress twice.  Such wastefulness is silly, especially if there is someone outside without shoes or socks in the middle of winter. Just think about the fact that someone lost their foot to frostbite when it could had been prevented with something that is in everyone homes. One thing you can count on is that there will always be someone that is hungry and giving them food would spread more love. So if someone tell you “And if a man hunger, Let him eat at home” 1 Corinthians 11:34 Also remind them that the bible said “Whoever has two shirts should share with the person who doesn’t have any. Whoever has food should share it too.” Luke 3:11

3. Education

Unfortunately, the church has been a blocker for education in the pass and sometimes in this day and age. With education comes power.  If you give people the knowledge to live and support themselves they will be able to have their pride again and help themselves instead of depending on others. Now not everyone can be the idea type of teacher but that is actually better. People need real life skills that will support them like learning how to balance a budget, or how to properly prepare meals. Maybe there is a craft that you have master, you could teach this to the younger generations so that they have a skill when a applying for jobs. Learning about the Lord is important but that does not mean the church is limited to just teaching the lord’s word.  All that means is that you are showing them the proper way to live so that they can follow the commandments. If you teach a man that stealing is wrong knowing they have no source to food or shelter any other way you have defeated the purpose because you did not give that man the tools he needed to obey the law.” For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.” Proverbs 2:6.

4. Health

“Be not among drunkards or among gluttonous eaters of meat, for the drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty, and slumber will clothe them with rags. Proverbs 23:20-21. This nation is known for its over need in everything. More, More, More is the American way but is it the Christian way. No, it is not taking what you need in moderation is not just a sign of humbleness but in health. Each year the population is getting bigger and not in a good way.  Over eating has guided many to their graves because of the pleasure of eating everything they wanted when they wanted. The lord gave us the task of watching the worlds animals and what we have done is disguising. The need for meat is so great that we do not farm in natural ways because it would not be productive enough. Then there are all the sugar we eat everyday. The result is the people of this nation are sick on the inside causing outrageous hospital bills that no one can afford. Our preachers need to take a stand and encourage people to eat right.  This is what harsh love means. Not when people describe other peoples choice in partners as disgraceful. Over eating is a sin in the bible so how come preacher hardly advocate for their followers to eat health. The church needs to stand strong and encourage a healthy lifestyle on all fronts.   “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

5. Love, Peace, and Happiness.

In a world full of hate their should always be a place you can go to find peace, the church. We know that their are many that are not accepted in this world for no fault of their own.  If you look at people you don’t recognizes as outsiders to your church, you are the problem.  No one has any right to claim a church because it is a place meant for healing. If you walk into a church and only see one race there is something wrong with that church.  Churches that only have one race in it does not happen on accident.  That happen because of the people in it. If you can not accept the idea of loving people outside your own race then you yourself are deeply sick and need to fix yourself. The church is suppose to stand against oppression like Dr. Martin Luther King did to show that you do truly believe that everyone deserves love.  “Learn to do good; seek justice, correct oppression; bring justice to the fatherless, plead the widow’s cause.” Isaiah 1:17 There is no way around it, the lord gave us the mission to spread his words of love. This world could really use that so when will the church finally open its doors and spread love?

 

5 Plants That Will Make Your Life Better

One of the biggest concerns when working in closed areas is the air.  However, the solution for that has been right in front of our faces all this time, plants.  Plant are so good at cleaning the air that NASA has done several studies to understand just how well a plant can do. If NASA was willing to do the research you should probably take the advise and use these natural filters that can also make your home look better.

1. Lavender

This plant can reduce stress & anxiety. I’m sure you have seen lavender oil and candles in stores, this product is know to help balance your mood. If you brew the leafs and mix with hot water you will have a at home remedy for sleep complications.

2. Aloe Vera

This is another plant that is a common substance in lotions, oils, and all other type of skin products.  You can use this in any hair type from 1a to 4c and it will naturally moisture your hair.  Its also a great face treatment with a good smell.

3. Peace Lily

In studies from NASA it has been proven that this plant can clean the air of pollutions that cause several skin irritations.  It is an easy plant to grow making it a perfect house hold plant the doubles as a filter. However, this plant is not as useful for cat & dogs so if you are a pet lover I would suggests you not pick this one.

4. Bamboo Palm

This was another tested plant to find natural ways to clean the air.  This plant does not need much sun so it is a good choice for homes or the offices.  If you want cleaner air in your homes plants like this can help.

5. Mother-in-Law’s Tongue

Now most people will refer to this as the Snake Plant but for obvious reason I felt that its other name should be known. This is probably the most productive at turn CO2 into oxygen. It would be idea for areas of the home that may be damp like a basement getting rid of all of those harmful toxins for you.

So if you want less Formaldehyde, Benzene, and Trichloroethylene in your home this is the way to do it.

 

 

NASA study – NASA Technical Reports Server (NTRS)

5 Ways America Society Is Making You Mentally ill

If you have ever watched the hunger games one detail that is often overlooked are the people who were provided with everything.  Their lives were so simple that watching children kill each other was seen as entertainment.  Having all the resources you could need or wanted sounds like paradise, but when humans have no goals in life we begin to lose something important, passion.  Society takes up new activities when survival is no longer a struggle and try to find something to feel passionate about.  For example fashion or some type of extreme sports to fill their lives with excitement or purpose. We are filling our time with useless wants and desires.  These are 5 mentally illnesses that are growing because of our society.

1. Anorexia

Anorexia is when your body weigh is extremely low to the point that you could die from starving.  There are more than 200,000 cases reported a year in the U.S. if you look at the studies from the National Eating Disorder Association. Now you should consider that as time passes more people were able to afford going to the hospital which may cause a jump is statistics. Still the numbers are increasing especially the gap between men in women for this disorder.  Anorexia is most commonly found in preteens to young women. Due to social norms, women attempting to become underweight is seen as an accomplishment.  When girls are told skinny is better they continue to lose weight no matter what the cost to their bodies.  Sadly, this is one of the most encourage mental illnesses to have in America just watch America’s Top Model and they will show you how being underweight is required to be beautiful.

2. Bulimia

This is another mental illness that is more common among women.  This is one of the steps or symptoms people with anorexia have.  Mental illness can grow because of what type of society you live in.  It is  not by accident that Bulimia is more common with women. Society has told them that starving yourself to look good is a choice.  That way of thinking should never be an option and yet to this day we still encourage women to make themselves smaller to please others.  This illnesses takes the biggest damage with those peoples teeth because of all the acids they are releasing daily from their mouth.

3. Hoarders

When I first heard of the idea of what a hoarder was I did not believe it.  The idea that people would willing fill their homes with trash just seem like such a bad idea that no one would do that on purpose. However, after watching a few episodes of hoarders I started to understand that this was about much more than having too much trash or being lazy. This lifestyle is a form of expressing grief.  The people on those shows lost something special that could never be replaced so instead of looking to people for support they began to hold dearly to anything they own whether or no it had value. This is their way of controlling something in there life.  In America, we encourage people to keep buying even when they don’t need it because we are a capital run society and this type of greed is overcoming our abilities to find comfort in people instead of object.

4. Anxiety

From the day we are born we are taught to judge. Anxiety is the product of someone feeling they are out of place or don’t belong.  Anxiety is much more of an external problem because we are judging every person we lay eyes on.  Some people have to deal with this more than others due to their gender, sexual partners, race, or birth defects.  We as a society are causing so much pain, yet we pretend it is not connected.  All we can do is teach people coping skills to handle the pressure instead of stopping the people and habits that are causing anxiety.

5. Obesity

Now in the U.S. alone there are over 3 million cases being reported a year dealing with obesity.  Many tend to believe that this is a sign of wealth but that is not true.  The poorer you are the less likely your are to have fresh produce daily.  High calorie foods are cheap which causes many to buy more of it.  Now many like to look at being overweight as the main problem that can only be solved with working out but that is just more propaganda to cover up the real issue.  You can be the right weight and still have high blood pressure.  It is not about the weight, the main problem is how you maintain that weight. Eating 500 calories in fruits verses candy does make a difference on the inside and it is causing more health problem for people who thought they were fine.  The BMI scales does not prove that you are healthy.  True obesity is just another mental health problem.  Just like the hoarders people become addicted to food to fill the space of another problem.

Fighting Against Society

The moral of this story is that our society is making us empty inside.  I am not saying that these mental illnesses would all go away if we had a better society, however I do believe that the increasing numbers of cases are growing because of our society.  It is not random that worm suffer from anorexia when people constantly praise being underweight as a form of beauty.  We are making people mentally ill and if we continue this path the only people who will profit are the hospitals. Sometimes less is more.

 

All of my information comes from the NEDA.

 

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